• Ready! Aim! Fire!

    It is said that the world is filled with (at least) three different types of people. The three types are those that live by the practice of: Ready. Aim. Fire.                 Ready. Fire. Aim.                 Ready. Aim. Aim. Aim. Aim. Fire. Frankly, for a larger part of my life I have been closer to the last group of people than the others. That means it probably would not surprise you to know that I am an Enneagram 1. But I am finding myself far less trapped by the need to be perfect as I used to be. Perhaps it is age. Perhaps it is wisdom. But it is certainly realizing…

  • Aiming for More

    What are some of the important markers in your life? Maybe it is a wedding day or the birth of a child or children. For others, it might be related to a move, a new job, or some other significant change. For others, those markers relate to health matters, or a tragic event like the loss of a loved one. Whatever it is, we all have markers in our life. For me, one of those markers has never been birthdays. But this year is different. 50 years ago today, I was born. I don’t say that to have any birthday wishes come my way. I say it because it is…

  • Stepping Out of the Hamster Wheel

    How is your life progressing? How do you measure that progress? Perhaps for the day-to-day, you use a calendar and a to-do list. I know I do. Frankly, I do not know how I would properly function without knowing where I am to be, what time I am to be there, and what I am to do. However, clicking (or checking) off a list of tasks and keeping appointments does not make for a full life. We may be productive, but are we effective? (I have long argued for effectiveness over productivity and efficiency, although each of the latter are important.) And if we are effective, what is the benefit?…

  • Surrender

    What comes to mind when you hear the word surrender? For me, I usually think of defeat. I think of a weaker opponent yielding to a strong opponent. Sometimes I want the surrender to happen before it actually does. For instance, consider one team being badly beaten by another team, but the game not being ready to end because of the time left, or the innings remaining, etc. (I did actually witness a team walk off the field in the middle of an inning once because of how bad the other team was winning – that image has stuck with me for over 30 years). But could surrender be good?…